A Year of Kindness: Be kind to yourself

"As it turns out, we can’t practice compassion with other people if we can’t treat ourselves kindly.” – Brene Brown

Growing up, most of us were taught the “golden rule” – the principle that says we should treat others as we would like for them to treat us. When we follow the golden rule, we are inspired to extend respect, kindness, and fairness to those around us.

But what if we shook up the golden rule? Pause for a moment and reflect: What would it look like if I treated others the way I treat myself? How would it sound if I talked to others the way I talk to myself? Would I behave or talk to a loved one – or even a patient – the way I treat or talk to myself?

We tend to be our own harshest critics, focusing on our faults or mistakes and overlooking our strengths. And for those with careers dedicated to health care, it’s all too common to place the needs of others, both physical and emotional, above their own. When was the last time you did something nice for yourself or said something kind or nurturing to yourself?

Practicing self-kindness requires an internal reflection and a personal commitment to our happiness and well-being. We deserve our own compassion, understanding, and forgiveness for our flaws and mistakes, much like we’d extend to a friend or someone we love. This is an ongoing process, but every small step counts – and it will look different for each of us. Being kind to yourself is one of the most beneficial things you can do for your overall well-being, and ultimately for those around you.

May prompts

As we continue our Year of Kindness at SSM Health in May, we are focusing on practicing self-love and gratitude. Please, join us!